人面對死亡之所以產生焦慮、痛苦，究其原由無非是因為狀態的不同，期待的落差才會造成人面臨死亡深淵刻骨銘心的苦痛。本文以送終者與臨終者作為探討對象，面對死亡必然性的到來，兩者對人文向度期待的差異作為探討議題，從而看到送終者期待臨終者的狀態是「息」與「在」，然而臨終者面對死亡卻是希望送終者理解的是「死」與「祀」，探討這兩者之間期待、認知、理解的差異，是造成彼此痛徹心扉、焦慮、痛苦、撕扯的主因。本文試圖探討送終者的「祀」與臨終者的「息」之間的交界是否因「在」的向度而開顯，使生死反向的軸線或許可以往向零的原點雙回歸到「在」死生兩相安的人文療癒向度，這是本文在結語中的期待，也希望此篇的探討能使人重新思考死亡的意涵並緩解生存的焦慮。

The anxiety and pains produced in one’s confrontation with death is due to none other than the change of situation and the gap in expectation. This article is meant to inquire on the mourning and the dying, regarding the differences in their expectation about the humanistic dimension in face of the inevitability of death, whereby we see that the mourning expect the dying to be “at rest” and “present,” while the dying, in face of death, wish the mourning to understand “death” and “worship,” and the differences in the expectation, recognition and understanding between the two parties are primarily the causes of pains, anxiety and rift. In this article, we wish to make people reconsider the meaning of death and relieve the anxiety of being.