國內外對於親密伴侶暴力的性別權力控制論述有些討論，本文嘗試融入臺灣社會文化脈絡，以21位遭受親密伴侶暴力婦女為研究主體，透過訪談法了解受訪者如何詮釋自己的受暴經驗及其求助凸顯的性別權力關係。研究結果發現：受訪者的自我主體受到家族關係影響，在「三從」規範下努力扮演「三好」角色，在多重家族關係下，「自我」往往被犧牲，為了維持「家庭完整」而長期隱忍受暴事實。若求助，則面對排山倒海親情壓力。親密伴侶暴力循環期僅存於婚前，婚後受暴幾乎沒有蜜月期。除此之外，臺灣社會文化讓受訪者尋求協助時，傾向同時尋求正式與娘家系統的雙重協助。本研究歸納結論：（一）臺灣親密伴侶暴力是多重關係下的性別權力控制，（二）受暴婦女因生命週期不同處境也不同，（三）在家族主義與面子文化下容易造成受暴婦女求助的親情困境。

There has been much debate about the concept of sexual power control in regard to Intimate partner violence issue. This article, based on in-depth interviews with 21 battered women in Taiwan, illustrates how battered women interpret their experiences and help-seeking behaviors, and its implications for sexual power relations. The result of this study has demonstrated that even though Taiwan has become a modernized society and the prevention of Intimate partner violence has been implemented for two decades, women’s subjectivity is still strongly shaped by the Principle of Three Obedience which pushes women so hard to be a good daughter, wife, mother, and daughter-in-law. During the interview, when women refer themselves there is no “I” but only “we” and “my family.” For these 21 battered women in different life-cycle, original family and family-in-law seems to be a heavy chain that shackles them. Under the context of familism and face-saving culture, most of these 21 battered women endured their husband’s violence for many years in order to maintain "family integrity." Some ask for helps, but they faced the pressure from families. Different from Western scholars’ suggestions, the cycle of Intimate partner violence has almost no honeymoon period after marriage. Besides, these 21 battered women tend to seek helps from both formal and informal assistance. This article concludes that: 1. In Taiwan the Intimate partner violence is surely a sexual power control within multi-faceted systems, 2. The battered women’s experience and help-seeking are different in term of on their life-cycle, and 3. Within the contexts of familism and face-saving culture, these battered women often experienced dilemmas for seeking helps.